Five Hot Tips to Improve Sex LifeYour sex life is fuelled by feeling adventurous, confident, and excited about experiencing something new – and so it’s not surprising a lot of men feel they need some tips on how to improve their sex life if they’ve got bogged down in long work hours, little rest or excitement, and predictable sex.
The good news is men and women become more in tune sexually as they mature – with the woman becoming more physically focused and the man more appreciative of the emotional aspects of sex. Some women don’t orgasm until their 40s and 50s as they become more confident and assertive, according to Dr Bernie Zilbergeld in Sex and Love at Midlife (Crown House.)
Improving sex life can be as straight forward as getting enough sleep, exercising more and reducing stress (all of which can deplete testosterone levels).
However one of the biggest turn offs may be a partner’s lack of interest in sex. Sydney sexologist Bettina Ardnt says her research shows men who complain about their sex lives say they get turned off because their partners repeatedly refused sex. Or they got bored with sex that was dispensed - as one of Ardnt interview subject, Michael described it - “like an owner handing a dog a bone.”
Improving your sex life also means making sex a priority and investing quality time in your relationship. You can’t just fall into bed exhausted night after night and expect amazing sex will “just happen.”
So what are the five top things you can do to improve your sex life?
How to Improve Sex Life - Hot Tip No 11) Eat Sexy Superfoods
Keeping hormone levels primed is important for both men and women – and eating healthy is a good place to start. Make sure you include in your diet a range of super foods that increase sex drive by lifting testosterone levels, increasing nitric oxide, and increasing “feel good” brain chemicals like dopamine and serotonin which are needed for orgasm.L-arginine - a nitric oxide producing animo acid found in almonds and walnuts, salmon, cod and halibut, granola, oatmeal, peanuts, cashews, green vegetables, root vegetables, garlic, ginseng, soybeans, chickpeas and seeds. Research has established L-arginine increases blood flow and enhances orgasm.
L-arginine is also available as a topical cream like Ignite Intimate gel.
- Pomegranate Juice - A glass of pomegranate juice a day improves sex drive and sexual performance, according to a number of studies. It is thought powerful antioxidants in the juice boost nitric oxide in penile tissue.
- Oysters, Avocados & Asparagus - testosterone production depends heavily on Vitamin B and zinc, so any foods that contain good amounts of these two minerals promote testosterone levels. Raw oysters are one of the best dietary sources, of zinc, while three vegetables beginning with “A” – artichoke, avocado and asparagus are also good for supporting testosterone levels.
- Dark Chocolate - contains serotonin and dopamine, neurotransmitters that contribute to feelings of well-being and happiness. Antioxidants improve circulation and lower cholesterol. Phenylethylamine, a chemical with an amphetamine-like affect, mimics feelings of being in love.
How to Improve Sex Life - Hot Tip No 22) Exercise to boost testosterone - do some weight training and cardiovascular training five or more days a week for 30 minutes.
Exercise has a positive effect on the sex drive of men and women. A 1990 study showed men participating in exercise (60 minutes per day, three to five days a week, with a peak sustained intensity of 75 per cent to 80 per cent) developed "significantly greater sexual enhancements " (e.g. frequency of various intimate activities, reliability of adequate functioning during sex, percentage of satisfying orgasms).
Other research backs that study, showing testosterone surges after exercise and 60 year olds who swam regularly had the sexual fitness of 40-year-olds.
How to Improve Sex Life - Hot Tip No 33) Get plenty of sleep
Lack of sleep kills a man’s sex drive and can “age” testosterone levels by 15 years, research has shown. Lack of sleep makes women more susceptible to both obesity and depression – conditions which will wreck any sex life. Regularly get more than five hours of sleep a night.
How to Improve Sex Life– Hot Tip No 44) Get out in the sun
An hour of sunbathing can boost testosterone levels in both men and women by nearly per cent, European researchers have found. Even better, sharing some relaxation in a new environment fulfils the “novelty “ and better communication needed to encourage emotional intimacy which is the bedrock of an improved sex life.
How to Improve Sex Life – Hot Tip No 55) Get outside your comfort zone
One of the few large surveys of men with an inactive sex life – He’s Just Not Up To It Anymore by Bob Berkowitz and Susan Yager-Berkowitz found that a top reason for men not being interested in sex was that their wives didn’t seem to enjoy sex. And even more men – 68 per cent – said they had lost interest because their wives weren’t sexually adventurous enough.
Good sex depends on novelty and intimacy. But it also requires a commitment to developing non-sexual intimacy – which is important to most women. Don’t buy your partner sexy lingerie and expect that the “novelty” of her putting it on while you watch is going to get her pulse racing. You need to get creative and work out opportunities to get close that will please her as much as they do you.
Being open to new adventures – trying new pastimes – whether its white water rafting before snuggling up in front of an open fire in the evening – or sharing a “getting to know you again” weekend at a romantic resort – will help to open lines of communication and help restore lost bonds. Make a shared decision to experience something new together at least once every month.
Put effort into the non-sexual aspects of your relationship – planting a garden, going on shared family visits - things that create a shared sense of emotional investment.
Then move on to explore new dimensions and depths of sexual connection.