Low libido in men is a common problem, with an estimated one in three marriages affected in some way by low sex drive. Despite this fact, the issue is one of the hardest for men to acknowledge and talk about, as faulty stereotypes present men as always ‘raring to go’ sexually.
In a survey of 1,000 women conducted for A Redbook magazine by Weiner-Davis, 60% considered they wanted sex just as much, if not more, than their husbands. The survey concluded that most marriages, where the man suffered from low libido and refused to acknowledge it, ended in divorce.
A loss of libido is just as likely in men as in women, affecting a third to a half of all males. However, while some women are not bothered by a loss of libido, low libido scares men because being sexually active is such a strong part of the male identity. One survey showed only 23% of men with low libido considered themselves happy, while 46% of women with low libido said the same.
Studies by the American Medical Association showed low libido is the most common sexual health problem in men. And it’s the second most common sexual dysfunction after premature ejaculation.
The lack of libido in men is not to be confused with erectile dysfunction. Most men with a lack of libido can achieve erections but have lost the desire to have sex. Impotence, or erectile dysfunction, is wanting to have sex but not being able to get an erection. Most men with low libido can usually get an erection, but the two conditions are related because men who experience ED will also develop low libido if the situation remains unresolved.
Sex therapists say it’s increasingly common for them to see couples where the man, rather than the woman, has low sexual desire. Sex therapist Dr. Rosie King says in any relationship there is always one partner with lower and one with higher libido levels. While it is usually assumed the woman will be the ‘low desire’ partner, this is not always the case.
The good news is that whichever partner is affected by libido issues, you can do something about it. Here are some suggestions that may help lift a man’s libido and get a couple’s sex life back on track:
A lack of sexual interest – or at the very least a perceived lack – is guaranteed to create relationship tension and sow discord and distrust. This is validated by sexual health experts and sex therapists, who report that low libido is the most common problem brought up in sexual health counselling. Here are some worrying statistics:
If a man is physically capable of sex but does not want it, it’s difficult for his partner to not take it personally and conclude he doesn’t want that form of intimacy with her. No woman likes feeling sexually undesirable, which can drain intimacy and positive feelings from a relationship. Over time, if the problem isn’t dealt with, it can even lead to fears that her partner is having an affair. Long-term low libido problems can send relationship tension and distrust levels soaring.
The causes of low libido in men are physical and psychological/ emotional.
Men should have testosterone, DHEA and other androgen levels checked whenever there is a noticeable reduction in sex drive.
A man’s low libido may be the result of a thyroid condition, diabetes, hypertension, high blood pressure or other major illness. Some antidepressants, tranquilisers and anti-hypertensive drugs – as well as illegal drugs like marijuana and cocaine – can also reduce sex drive.
Lifting testosterone levels, through pills or patches, can make a big difference in restoring a man’s libido. Alternatively, you can take a herbal formula to support normal testosterone levels, like the proprietary supplement Herbal Ignite, which contains Tribulus Terrestris to improve sexual activity and muscular strength.
Herbal Ignite for Men is an over-the-counter dietary supplement taken daily with food to increase libido in men. It has been on the market for 14 years and has helped thousands of men increase libido and last longer in bed. It contains:
Clinically trialled in Europe, Herbal Ignite has been used successfully by thousands of men and women in New Zealand and Australia to boost libido and improve sexual and general health. All-natural Herbal Ignite is taken as a daily tonic, regardless of sexual activity.
Herbal Ignite is a New Zealand company and the herbs are approved under the Therapeutics Goods Act for use in Australia. Herbal Ignite is 100% natural and is free of unpleasant side effects. It is manufactured in New Zealand to the highest standards, with thorough testing and guarantees of no adulteration or undeclared ingredients.