If you’re noticing you don’t seem to have sex as often as you did when you’re younger, and you’re trying to work out what’s changed or what’s wrong with you, try not to stress about it. The demands of modern life can be tough on libido, and many factors can play a role in leaving you feeling like sex is one more demand you just can’t meet.
Media-fuelled expectations have also complicated the issue by placing pressure on both men and women to maintain an active sex life. So it’s not surprising our bodies sometimes feel they cannot keep up.
Libido is essentially the same thing as your sex drive. It’s your mental or psychological interest in sex, which is quite separate from the physical ability to have sex or not. And although low libido is common with aging, it’s not inevitable. Rest assured though that there are many things you can do about it.
Low sex drive or libido problems are relatively common, with an estimated one in three marriages affected in some way by low libido issues. The sooner you and your partner can begin an open and honest dialogue with each other, and perhaps involve a trained sexual health specialist as well, the sooner low libido can be dealt with and your love life restored.
A lack of sexual interest – or at the very least a perceived lack – can create relationship tension and sow discord and distrust. This is validated by sexual health experts and sex therapists, who report that low libido is the most common problem brought up in sexual health counselling.
If one partner is physically capable of sex but does not want it, it’s difficult for the other not to take it personally and conclude he – or she – doesn’t want that form of intimacy with their partner. No one likes feeling sexually undesirable and this can drain intimacy and positive feelings from a relationship.
Over time, if the problem isn’t dealt with, it can even lead to fears that one partner may be having an affair. Long-term low libido problems can cause tension and distrust in even the strongest relationships.
Many factors can contribute to low libido. Some that are common to both men and women include a heavy workload, relationship stress or health issues. A man’s libido is more likely to be affected by physical issues, but he is also susceptible to emotional factors.
Here are some common causes of low libido in men:
A woman’s libido is also affected by these same factors, but is also likely to be compounded by her broader experience. This includes:
The lack of libido in men is not to be confused with erectile dysfunction (ED). Most men with a lack of libido can achieve erections but have lost the desire to have sex.
Sex therapist Dr. David Schnarch says physical arousal and subjective arousal do not always occur hand-in-hand. You can be physically aroused, but not feel that way. And conversely, you can feel a strong sense of sexual libido, but find your body is not responding.
He says in his book Resurrecting Sex that libido difficulties “generally show up as a persistent lack of sexual fantasies and disinterest in sexual activity.”
It is tough for a man to admit having a low libido, so it’s heartening that some well-known sportsmen and entertainers – including controversial cyclist and testicular cancer survivor, Lance Armstrong, and singer Robbie Williams – have spoken publicly about suffering from this condition.
Erectile dysfunction is unrelated to low libido, so drugs aimed at treating ED consequently have no effect on sexual desire. Other remedies are needed instead; here are some options:
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Disclaimer. This information is provided for general informational purposes only and does not substitute for the advice provided by your medical professional. Always seek specific medical advice for treatment appropriate to you. Individual results may vary and are not guaranteed.